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Elizabeth Husserl's avatar

Steve - a client of mine sent me this post and I loved this. It is so beautifully honest. That moment in Portugal stopped me, the realization that we suffer both in the gain and in the loss. I explore this too in my own work with people and I love reading when others do it too. Thank you for capturing it so well.

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Steven Schlafman's avatar

Thanks for the comment, Elizabeth. You're doing important work. Keep it up!

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Justin Mulvaney's avatar

I've had similar moments - where getting to the bottom I've realized "I just don't want to suffer around this anymore" - and in fully feeling that, it just... evaporates. Thanks for writing, thanks for sharing.

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Steven Schlafman's avatar

Good to see you here, brother. Thanks for sharing your experience. I feel like we have so many friends in common. Long overdue to connect.

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Justin Mulvaney's avatar

Would really enjoy that. I'm down in Beacon - I believe not far from you. I'll drop you a message via your website and we can see if we can link up.

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Tylney Taylor's avatar

So raw. This is a new version. Welcome :)

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David Spinks's avatar

beautiful.

strikes me that any time i'm attached to an outcome, this dynamic is present.

if i don't get the outcome, i'm stressed. if i get the outcome, i'm stressed about maintaining it, or reaching the next level.

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Brooks Barron's avatar

Best money you ever spent 😉

Because freedom is truly priceless. 🔥

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Danielle Wilkie's avatar

Steve - I have been following your work for years. Much you have written has been helpful to me. But today, this post, I felt in my gut. I have my own version of the bitcoin story and I feel it rear its head in unexpected ways, too. Thanks for saying this out loud.

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Steven Schlafman's avatar

Yes, this is all too common but rarely talked about. I hope you're able to make peace with whatever you felt in your gut. Sending love.

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Alison Zamora's avatar

😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨 I felt the intensity of this piece, Steve. Wow. I wonder why this feeling is so ingrained in us... this vision of "striking it rich" (I think of the gold rush)? And does our fear come from absorbing stories of those who lost it all/lost their chance/lost their shot? What makes us think we only get one shot at something? Lately I've been drawn to stories of those who have lost it all and rebuilt... especially more than once.

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